Ant Anstead is In It For The Long Haul

Image: Roach First steps If you’re meeting someone for the first time, there are a few things to keep in mind. When you do meet, be sure to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. “Be open to where they’re coming from. If they meet you with a friendly, welcoming smile and a little smile, take your time to reciprocate. Say ‘how are you?’ to let them know that you’re interested,” notes Daniel Reitman, author of. “If they get angry, don’t hang out with them. Everyone has a bad day, but you’ve got to know your own limits.” Image: Images If you met online, remember the “tell” can be something as simple as a profile picture that displays a visible tattoo or ill-fitting pants. “These kind of subtle clues tell the whole story. For example, if you see a person who is very homely and they look like a female version of a male character from, or something like that, then you know she or he doesn’t do their own makeup,” says Reitman. “That’s not to say you’re ugly, but this kind of person always has a beautiful person behind the scenes.” It’s also a good idea to take a look at the profile: people frequently write about who they are and what they’re looking for. “It’s important to pay attention to the words people write. It’s easy to be seduced by what you see, but the words you see might not be what the person meant to convey,” notes Reitman. “If they say, ‘I’m looking for love,’ that could mean you.” Image: Roach This is what a successful dating profile looks like: Image: Roach Image: Now that you’ve set the tone, don’t just present yourself to the world. Use those first few dates to get to know your date, and see where you and your date match. “The most important thing to do on a first date is to make sure you aren’t the only one going on
Check out these 6 must-haves to make dating a better experience. As a general rule of thumb: If it sounds like I’m talking about sex—I am. I’ve noticed that many of my closest friends are in fact having sex, or are really, really good at talking about sex, so I thought I would share a few of my favorite techniques for breaking the ice with a new or potential paramour. 1) When Your Confidence Is Really High: Sometimes, your confidence radiates from the inside out. You know you’re good at something—your job, your writing, your reading, your social skills. To have the confidence to date, as well as to talk about sex or love, you need to have confidence in who you are as a whole—both on the inside and the outside—in order to be comfortable with yourself and your partner. If you have this confidence, you can be open and honest. If you’re playing it safe, you’re not actually being honest. When you’re just being yourself, you can say what you want to say, whether it’s something a little naughty or, dare I say it, nice. So, when your confidence is high, everything’s easier. You’re not as worried that you’re making a fool of yourself, because you just are. 2) When Your Confidence Is Low Sometimes, your confidence is low, and then you’re super nervous about talking to someone. You can play around with confidence, as outlined above, but if you find yourself feeling insecure, try one of these techniques: Wear something different—or the same, but different. Even if you’re wearing a very simple outfit, try switching the tie or scarf or belt. Sometimes wearing something different makes you feel like the outfit is trying too hard to be different—because it is trying. Instead, it should make you feel comfortable, comfortable enough to smile and be yourself. When I was 16, I wasn’t dressed at all fancy, and I got my hair done. How did I do it? I got a piece of coral hair gel stuck in my hair as soon as it was done. Sometimes, things I don’t really need to do on my hair make me feel like I’m trying way too hard. Other times, the coral hair gel made it feel like I was just about to come out of a Glamour magazine or anything else in my bedroom, I mean closet. Hair gel doesn